Managing coronavirus anxiety


Justify your fears and worries.     

Feeling afraid and worrying about the coronavirus is completely natural and even healthy to some extent given the circumstances. Our brains evolved a threat-detection system for a reason. In the long run, it won’t do you any good to try and deny this. 

Justify your fears and worries by taking a moment anytime you’re feeling anxious to literally remind yourself that it’s understandable and completely valid that you feel afraid.   Your mind is designed to keep you alive.  Whether or not your fears are completely rational or justified, in times like these it’s not surprising that your mind is sounding the alarm.  You don’t need to wallow in your anxieties or obsess over them. Simply take a minute to remind yourself that it’s okay to feel however you feel. This will set you up better than anything else to have lower anxiety overall and be able to take productive action when you need to.

Separate worry from problem-solving.      

Worry is the mental act of trying to problem solve something that isn’t really a problem or a problem that can’t be solved at the time. It’s inherently unproductive and generates more and more anxiety.  If you can’t control or do anything about a situation, it isn't helpful for you to spend your time and energy worrying about it.         

The trouble is, worry looks and feels a lot like true problem-solving, which is productive thought about a problem that can potentially be solved.  In addition to all the stress and anxiety it generates, worry has another hidden cost—all the energy we pour into our worries is energy we can’t invest in genuinely helpful or productive thinking. 

I think we all know that feeling of being paralyzed by worry—sitting around, anxiously spinning our wheels, only to feel worse and worse.  So, if you find yourself increasingly anxious, stop and consider your current thinking patterns. Ask yourself: Is the way I’m thinking now actually helpful?

Scheduled time to worry on purpose.

This one’s counter intuitive but it’s actually an incredibly powerful way to tamp down high levels of worry and anxiety.

One of the problems with worry is that it feels so automatic and outside of our control.  Your brain worries because it thinks you’re in danger. The trouble is, if you respond to those worries with more attention and elaboration, you’re encouraging your brain to do more of it.  In other words, the more attention you give your worry, the more you reinforce it in the future.

While it’s best to briefly validate then ignore your unhelpful worries, this can be hard—especially when the worry is big and about something really scary (like, say, a pandemic).

So, one of the ways you can train your brain to not bombard you with countless worries throughout the day is to teach it that there’s a specific time and place where it’s allowed to worry.  You can train your brain to worry at certain times (and not in others) with some good old-fashioned positive reinforcement.

Here’s what scheduling time to worry on purpose looks like:

  • Pick a time each day when you can sit down with a pen and paper for 5 to 10 minutes.
  • During that time, try your hardest to write down every worry you can think of no matter how big or small. Importantly, you’re just listing your worries, not trying to solve them. Think of it like a brainstorming session. The idea is simply to get them out onto paper.
  • Once your 5 or 10 minutes is up, put the paper away until the following day.
  • Repeat daily. This won’t work right away, but after several days, your mind will start to learn that it has its own special time to worry, which means it will be less likely to throw worries at you all throughout the day.
  • If you find yourself worrying during the day, briefly validate the worry, then remind yourself that you’ll get to it during your scheduled worry time. Then, redirect your attention back to what you want or need to be doing.

If you’re feeling helpless, be helpful.

Of course, many of us are feeling helpless right now. But just because you feel helpless doesn’t mean you need to sink into despair, apathy, or paralyzing levels of anxiety and panic.

One of the best ways to counteract the feeling of helplessness is to be helpful to other people.

  • If you’re sitting at home on the couch watching your third hour of coronavirus coverage, try shutting off the tube for a bit and brainstorming some ideas for how you might help people who are worse of than yourself:
  • If you have a kid, try having serious but developmentally appropriate conversation about what’s really going on. Kids are smarter than we often give them credit for. Which means they probably know more and are worrying more than we think. Instead of assuming the less they know the better, consider giving them some information and modeling how to handle fear in a healthy, mature way.
  • A lot of small business (and the families who own them) are going through some really hard times right now as people stop spending money on typical activities. Consider buying some gift cards, for example, from your favorite local restaurants to help them out with cashflow during a really hard time. Then, when things get better, you can either go out or give the cards to someone else.
  • Some of the people getting hit hardest by the virus seem to be elderly people. If you have elderly neighbors, friends, or family, consider how you might be useful or helpful to them. Even a simple phone call could go a long way for an older person who’s maybe feeling especially scared or lonely right now.
  • Of course, our health care professional are really taking a hit right now. Besides putting their own lives and health at risk by just doing their job, they’re also often working extremely long hours in very demanding circumstances. If you know someone who’s in healthcare, consider offering to help them out with groceries, watching their children, or just reaching out to ask if you can help somehow.

Stay active.

One of the best ways to alleviate and prevent anxiety is exercise. Even a moderate level of exercise for 10 or 20 minutes seems to be helpful for anxiety.  If you can, consider trying to make the extra effort to get some more exercise and movement into your life.  Physical movement and exercise is one of the most powerful anti-anxiety techniques we have. Use it in whatever way you can.

Be intentional about your media consumption.

During difficult times and crises, we all need to stay informed. This often means keeping up-to-date on the news in whatever medium you get it—newspaper, cable news, social media, etc.

But, it’s all too easy to slip from helpful information consumption to unhelpful information consumption. During times of stress, it’s natural to fall back on our default habits and behaviors. But it’s during times of serious stress when we actually need to be less automatic and more deliberate than ever. So, of course, we all need to stay informed, but it’s important to ask yourself how much is enough and how much is too much?

Do you really need to be watching 4 hours of news each day and reading the New York Times cover to cover?  Maybe an hour of news per day is sufficient to keep you informed without adding loads of unnecessary stress and anxiety on top of it?

Call up good friends.

Even 15 minutes of good conversation with someone you really love and enjoy can do wonders for your anxiety.  Even though we may need to physically isolate ourselves, there’s no reason we need to socially isolate ourselves. Why not call a friend? Sure, it’s old tech, but the humble phone call can be a remarkable tool for managing anxiety.  The next time you’re feeling anxious, try picking up the phone and chatting with a friend. It doesn’t have to be about the virus and everything that’s going on right now either. Just connect and your anxiety will improve.

Tighten up your sleep routines.

Here’s how to tighten up your sleep during times of stress:

  • Don’t get into bed until you’re actually sleepy.  Let your body, not the clock, dictate when you get in bed. If you get into bed when your body’s not actually ready for sleep, you’re likely to end up worrying and anxious, which makes it even harder to sleep.
  • If you can’t sleep, get out of bed until you’re sleepy.  If you wake up in the middle of the night and find it hard to fall back asleep, simply get out of bed and read or watch old sitcom re-runs until you’re sleepy again. Then get back into bed. The worst thing you can do is stay in bed worrying about not sleeping, because this trains your mind to associate fear and worry with your bed. Not good.
  • Pick a consistent wake-up time and stick to it every day. When we continually flip-flop our wake up time, we contribute to what’s called social jet lag, which leads to the same symptoms as real jet lag but without the jets. The reason is, your body’s main signal for when it gets sleepy at night is simply how long you’ve been awake. If you’re waking up at different times throughout the week, your body is never going to develop a consistent pattern of sleep and wake.
  • Set an alarm and stick to it (No sleeping in!).  When you first wake up in the morning, your brain is still “coming online,” which means it’s harder to think logically and rationally. As a result, when you lay in bed, snoozing after your alarm, your chances of getting caught up in worry and anxiety go way up. By far the best way to avoid the common early morning anxiety many people experience is to simply get right out of bed and get going first thing in the morning.
  • Exercise more.  Physical activity, and especially exercise, improves our sleep drive through the day. This means that we’re both sleepier in the evenings and more likely to fall asleep quickly, but also that we’re more likely to sleep through the night. If you want to get better sleep, try your best to be more active.

Pick up an old hobby or start something new.

When things are stressful and scary, it’s easy to get paralyzed by fear and anxiety. And doing things to not feel anxious will only take you so far. On the other hand, if we can fill our lives and attention with positive, constructive tasks and activities, the anxiety will have less room to grow and fester.

What can I do to eliminate this anxiety? It’s mostly an addition problem—what can I fill my life with such that anxiety has less of a hold on me?  It’s going to be hard to consistently keep your mind off your worries and fears if you don’t have a positive, appealing alternative to rest it on. Why not pick up an old hobby or start something new?

See a professional.

If your anxiety is starting to significantly impair your life, you should consider talking to a professional. Even though physically meeting with a therapist, counselor, or other mental health professional may be off the table for now, it’s very much possible to do so remotely with tools like Skype, Zoom, and others.

If you’ve seen a therapist in the past, consider calling them up and seeing if you can at least schedule a session or two with them.

The following databases are also a good place to begin looking for a local therapist:

The American Board of Professional Psychology, Behavioral and Cognitive Psychology Division

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